Cyber Stalker

Writing is what heals me and sharing my experiences to situations that have re-triggered and re-traumatized is necessary for my own growth. Under no circumstance do people deserve to be cyber stalked. My cyber stalkers excuse and famous line was this, “I am doing this so that she will learn and hold herself accountable.” Let me very clear here — A healthy brain does not stalk an autistic person via social media, and when asked to stop, the person persists and continues with the stalking and targeted harassment. For extra context, I will detail the exact definition of stalking per say:

Perpetrators are relentless and they will go to extreme lengths

I have been cyber stalked since 2019 and I revealed the identity of this individual on Sunday, February 23rd, 2025. I spent hours from the time I woke up to the very late evening trying to put together their own bread crumbs that they left behind throughout the years. You see, people are unaware of the bread crumbs left behind and this can include through someone’s words and insidious gaslighting attempts. By citing another person’s past mistakes is not only a form of gaslighting but this is blackmail. Now, I have actual proof and my own incriminating screenshots as much as my cyber stalker has their incriminating screenshots. As I mentioned in therapy recently, this can go two ways where both parties need to move on and let go, and for my autistic brain, I need to write and talk about this in order to heal. My cyber stalker, essentially, taught me nothing — Instead, they brought more awareness into, overall, gaslighting and the dark triad personalities. And throughout the years, I was a victim of gaslighting and, now through my own extensive research, I can pinpoint the red flags when it comes to gaslighting or any further attempts for that matter.

Cyber stalking includes unwarranted communication and this can, eventually, turn to someone being stalked in real life, especially if there are dark triad personality traits at play. My cyber stalker has a very serious personality disorder that is clearly untreated, and I know I am not the only one of their victims that they are carelessly targetted. If I can reach out for help and take accountability for my own harms done to others, so can this person. And realistically, life will never get better if one refuses to self-reflect and take that accountability. Accountability to me is a natural, imperfect human being thing on planet earth.

I have been cyber stalked since 2019 and I thought the answers were on another platform and they were not; in essence, they were on a completely different platform and that is how I decided to take further action in my own life and in my own healing and recovery. I HAD to drudge up the past and look back to the girl I used to be from 6.5 years ago. From that girl to the girl I am now, I am so much better — I am more self-aware, understanding, empathetic, courageous, resilience, and a bad ass warrior.

I have spent years examining my cyber stalker’s behavior and trying to understand their mentality per say. I am one of the quiet ones, especially when there is significant harm done to me. And for this situation, there has been significant harm and that is why talking and writing about this can be healing, in hopes to even inspire someone else who felt stuck just like I did.

I had questioned my sanity and I cut off so many contacts that I once thought would be my cyber stalker. I even questioned a close friend in real life and we are only just taking time and space, for now. However, I did question her and I know it is not her though. I did have a list of names and I even suspected that it was someone from the helping profession. However and if you really think about it, anyone who has the passion and the commitment to work in the helping profession, we each have our own, distinct experiences on a personal level; we have been through the worse, unspeakable amount of trauma. We know what it is like to experience trauma, essentially. And being cyber stalked is highly triggering and traumatizing for anyone. My reactions, overtime, to the targeted harassment and persistent cyber stalking are very much so valid.

If I did not drudge up the past, I would not have made the steps I made recently in terms of my continual healing and recovery. I just know I am not and nor will I ever be my sociopathic cyberstalker as they have left detrimental and long-lasting scars for life. However, I am, again, thankful for the awareness I needed to pinpoint other people’s gaslighting attempts because I am autistic and I am very vulnerable. In that sense, I do not clue into dangerous situations and that is why I was sexually assaulted in 2016 and raped in May and the summer of 2023. I am letting go and moving on from this — But we do this through writing and talking about our experience(s) and that’s what some people refuse to understand and that is okay.

A good mental health advocate or, better yet — Someone that is resilient is someone that has been through multiple adversities and they are still fighting. They are still clinging onto hope. Upon being suicidal from the age of 13 years old, I am still alive and breathing. This cyber stalking attempt is nothing but simple trash to me. I am letting go and moving on from this ugly, vile person.

I know exactly who they are and I can talk about it without disclosing their first and last name. I actually know privacy and confidentiality laws, and I know the criminal code. That being said, I know better to disclose such personal information. However, I can talk about it and I make sure this never happens to anyone else. My voice is more powerful than ever these days.

My cyber stalker is a Virgo and they work in retail, upon being fired from the same retail job that I used to work on. I got fired too for setting a garbage bin on fire upon being inebriated. However, I am grateful I was fired because I found myself. And I will continue to find myself throughout my own healing and recovery period. Anyways. They work at some other supermarket called Sobeys and Pet Smart. I deeply feel sorry for those animals. Sociopaths or psychopaths should be nowhere near the animals and this disgusts me; there is a literal knot in the pit of my stomach because what is this person doing to those precious animals? There is also a million of these locations in the world so I am talking, generally speaking.

It’s such a coincidence that my Tellonym and the 5 anonymous followers literally went down to three anonymous followers, and this was upon revealing the identity of my sociopathic cyber stalker. Everything just got better! I have my memory back guys and I am someone who will no longer be gaslit. Instead, I will educate anyone who are currently battling similar-like struggles. It is not okay to cyber stalk, even impersonate, people on social media. So many crimes were committed and the start is talking about it as I was targeted and stalked for 6.5 years! That is insanity!

The difference amongst my cyber stalker and myself is this: I actually know how to hold myself accountable, be honest with myself, and own my shit. I actually know how to live my life authentically and I actually know how to confront situations and communicate to anyone I need to communicate too. It’s called life and very valuable life skills. Obviously, the sociopath or psychopath does not have these essential life skills. Upon researching and listening to very helpful podcasts on sociopathy and psychopathy, I am learning so much about my cyber stalker. They are clearly envious of me because I have actually made myself in this world, and I have a shit ton of connections and real, genuine friends that are with me for life.

Drudging up the past taught me A LOT and that my life is better without fake and ingenuine people. My cyberstalker is fake. I never trusted them from the beginning. They went around telling everyone that they quit from their job when they got fired, and this went around quite fast at my retail job. I did not partake in such gossip though because I do not go to work to engage in workplace politics; I absolutely refuse to be that person. This person also lied to her parents about having some other job when they did not have a job at all. This person disrespected her parents, literally, in front of me and had 0 remorse to doing so. This person lives in a suburban mansion in a very rich area. This person also disclosed that their father is abusive. And that was basically putting me on the spot when they disclosed that to me, given my debiliating mental and physical state, and self-medicating on alcohol; quite frankly, that was a not okay disclose. I should have reported that such disclosure to the authorities right away and I didn’t which makes me feel very bad and I do hold a ton of regret. I do take abuse allegations very seriously though… I am an abuse victim myself but a survivor. I also work with many client populations who have undergone many similar-like situations.

That being said, all of this is screwed up. Upon drudging up the past and finding anonymous, screwed up Instagram accounts that I wrote out of frustration while I was self-medicating with alcohol and drugs (aka, klonopin at the time) — I reviewed and heavily analyzed those anonymous pages and I was in private investigator mode, on top of being disgusted by what I even posted. However, that’s in the past. I re-read my DM’s even and to realize I reached out literally everyone at my retail job — Let’s just laugh about this! Anyways so, I am aware I vented some pretty fucked up things but I’m not going to harp on that. I was clearly not okay and my posts say that. But why cyber stalk and harass me for 6.5 years? Only a unhealthy brain does that.

Furthermore, I re-read a few of my DM’s and I read soo many empathetic and compassionate-like conversations. And then I came to this one, very off putting conversation that yelled ‘psychopathic vibes 101.’ I also know that me talking about this about my sociopathic cyber stalker is placing me in a very dangerous position as psychopath’s/sociopath’s are capable of pretty much anything, including stalking their victim in real life. However, they don’t know my physical address, my contact number, or anything that verifies my actual identity. I also have people IN MY CORNER that will protect me — And yes, in real life. I have actual protection.

In that psycho and off putting conversation, my cyber stalker they were telling me how ‘crazy’ I was, how I belong in a psych ward, and how I just want attention. Let me school you guys. 1. Mental health, trauma, and suicide is not for attention and saying this to us will kill us basically. 2. Crazy is a derogatory and very ableist to use. We need to kindly refrain from the use of that particular word, please. I will admit I did call her crazy too and I am no better. However, my profession taught me A LOT. 3. I don’t need further perpetuated shame and stigma when someone says ‘you belong in a psych ward.’ I know what I need and I know my needs well. I have made more progress than this person ever has. Their own unhealed trauma and deep-rooted insecurities shows at large.

My cyber stalker has attempted to gaslight and silence me for 6.5 years. I have finally decided to have a voice and take ation against them. They may not like it and that is okay, but come anywhere near me in real life, there will be problems, and there will be problems with the authorities. Just as much as they got their incriminating screenshots, so do I. I have many incriminating screenshots from 2019 now to today.

I’ve learnt recently that my cyber stalker is built off of ego. Every time I would present a crisis, they would show up again and that is their boost to their ego as they literally get a thrill off of persons in crisis, especially persons with disabilities. It’s essentially a sick and twisted game to them.

I should have listened to the many people at my workplace, back in retail, who advised me not to hang out with my cyber stalker. I have listening issues which has gotten better over the years, but literally EVERYONE warned me. I had people pull me aside as I was working on the express lane and they were like, “I saw you hanging out with that girl (said her name). I wouldn’t anymore.” And they would go off with how psycho she is. I am a nice person though and I felt sorry for her. I felt sorry because she continued to act out, and acting out does include walking out of your work. She even tried to get me to walk out of my shift and I refused. I take my work very seriously. If I have a job, I am going to do my job to the best of my ability but that is me. That being said, I regret not listening to my friends there at work…

Throughout the years when they continously diminished my autistic identity, being sexually assaulted in 2016 and raped in 2023, and to even my suicide attempts — This is not a good person. They even contacted a breast cancer GoFundMe campaign and I had showed that email to my friend as we were hanging out together, in the same room. Who contact a breast cancer campaign just to contact someone? Like, get over yourself and maybe donate to the campaign? They contacted through the campaign and they cited my old last name and I did not respond because I didn’t need too. Instead, I reported them to the GoFundMe reporting people. That is what the report button is for. As well and what this person does not know — A preferred name and someone else’s pronouns are very valid, especially for those who identify in the LGBTQ2SL+ community. Anyways, I just know they are not good and healthy. They’re nothing but toxic and I know they are likely going to target someone else and maybe they already have? I deeply feel for whomever they are targeting next as it takes someone with a very obvious, untreated and serious personality disorder to cause the harm(s) that they have perpetuated on my life for years.

I am not surprised that they are the way they are because I just learned recently that they are a Trump supported. I am anti-Trump. I will never support a convicted felon, let alone a known tax invader and a rapist. It makes perfect sense why their behavior is the way it is, given the very fact that they are pro trump. Had to put that there because that is very important to highlight.

In essence, this situation taught me resilience — It taught me the awareness and education I needed on gaslighting, narcissism, and the dark triad personalities.

I am healing and recovering from even some things I barely speak about. But I am coping and processing situations and experiences better than ever.